I admit it, I’ve been tempted and fallen from grace, but I no longer cared when I had my affair. I was already gone, our relationship battered; you were the first to break our vows by your delusional rule.
I enjoyed the tension of keeping my secret…my mind was consumed with thinking of him. No love was lost..but it was found…the lust that was latent burst into flames.
Pleasure ignited, passion took
over…my gratification brought me sensual delight. Not only the senses of the body were aroused but my mind
became clear on the path for my life.
It may sound odd, you may not believe,
but this so-called scandal, salvaged this wife.
Entering this for a new blog prompt from Imaginary Garden With Real Toads; Fireblossom’s Friday #3–Temptation!: http://withrealtoads.blogspot.com/
Bodhirose's Blog 
Kerry O'Connor
/ February 4, 2012I will believe anything when it comes to the needs of the individual, and the human heart.
It is great to have you join us on a Real Toad Challenge.
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Bodhirose
/ February 4, 2012Thanks, Kerry…I appreciate the welcoming words. Before this happened to me, I had a more rigid view on this behavior…now, like you, I think of the needs of the individual and try not to make judgment since I haven’t walked in their shoes.
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Fireblossom
/ February 4, 2012My own feeling is that, while I do believe in commitment, honesty, responsibility and all that, I also believe, deeply, that a person’s life is their own and is not owned by anyone else. There is a tipping point, when a person doesn’t owe *so much* to anyone else and must do what they need to do.
“This above all: to thine own self be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.”
Thanks so much for being part of FBF, and welcome to Real Toads!
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Bodhirose
/ February 4, 2012Thank you for the supportive comment, Fireblossom and for a great prompt. I love that quote too and believe in it wholeheartedly. First and foremost, my commitment is to myself…I learned that the hard way.
I enjoyed being a part of your FBF and hope to join in again…you have a great blog with great energy!
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Heaven
/ February 4, 2012There are indeed some experiences that makes us open our eyes, and make us re-evaluate our choices ~
Nice to see you at Real Toads.
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Bodhirose
/ February 4, 2012Hopefully, all of our experiences bring us some awareness so we can make better choices. Life…it sure keeps us on our toes!
Thanks for the nice welcome to Real Toads.
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Daydreamertoo
/ February 4, 2012Sometimes something happens and it all falls into place and what is meant to be happens the way that it happens and instead of destroying us, it serves to make us stronger. Great piece of writing.
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Bodhirose
/ February 4, 2012That’s right…it happened for a reason…as do all things…and I believed it actually helped save my sanity and feelings of self-worth. A very good thing!
Thanks, Bren.
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zongrik
/ February 4, 2012we all find ourselves there. that’s why there are so many rules about it.
cliffhanger
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Bodhirose
/ February 10, 2012There seem to be less and less rules that I want to adhere to as I get older.
Thanks for leaving me your link…it’s so convenient.
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Margaret
/ February 4, 2012No love was lost..but it was found…the lust that was latent burst into flames.
I’m not so sure that commitment is first owed to ourselves as that might turn into selfishness (it depends exactly what is meant by that I guess) BUT, I do believe that we must be honest with ourselves and others. And sometimes, that honesty hurts the ones we love, and makes us walk a path we never expected… intriguing write.
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Bodhirose
/ February 5, 2012In my situation, it became clear that my partner was not looking out for my best interest…so it fell to me…(should have been me all along)…to take care of what I needed. Taking gentle and conscious care of ourselves doesn’t mean being selfish in the sense that that is all we focus on. It takes two to make a partnership or a marriage..you simply can’t keep it going by yourself. It was a most complicated situation…
Thanks for sharing with me…I appreciate it.
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Lorna's Voice
/ February 5, 2012The heart knows what the heart wants. Your words speak of the weakening of one relationship and the sparking of another. Change. It’s life. Why should any of us think that relationships are impervious to life? To change?
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Bodhirose
/ February 8, 2012I no longer have the same ideas about partnership with others as I once had…they aren’t necessarily supposed to be “forever”.
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Sharmishtha
/ February 6, 2012thats how things often happen. good for those who can instantly found love after losing one.
love and hugs
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Bodhirose
/ February 8, 2012I’ve shared quite a bit of my feelings with you on this issue…I was very fortunate to escape the relationship that I did! Thanks, Trisha.
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dragonkatet
/ February 7, 2012This struck close to home, Gayle, as I have been wrestling with unmet needs myself and toying with the idea of an affair, although I abhor the thought of betraying my S.O. Above all else, I am loyal…and we have to be loyal to ourselves, first and foremost…but I dread the thought of being so “selfish” as so many have judged that particular path…There has to be a balance…and you’re right, we are the only ones who can (and should be expected to) meet our own needs…I’ve been trying to write a poem or something about it and just keep ending up with what seems like emotional purging. You’ve managed a brilliant and pointed write about the subject. Half a love is not enough. Do you ever regret it? No need to answer here, as I know that’s a very personal question. Anyway, kudos and props on this one!
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Bodhirose
/ February 8, 2012Corina, maybe I’ve managed to write something about it because I’m no longer in the middle of the hellish relationship that sent me running…I’m far removed from those days. But…I don’t regret my actions…it spurred me to live again and find the gumption to move on and become strong enough to leave. I no longer feel the same way about relationships with others as I did when I was married. I don’t believe in one person throughout our entire lives…we grow and change and people may no longer be a good fit. I feel honesty is important however, and I finally got the strength up to say…you’re not good for me…goodbye. I wish you well, friend… And maybe some good emotional purging is exactly what you need. Nothing wrong with that!
Thanks, too.
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dragonkatet
/ February 10, 2012Thanks SO much for that well thought out answer. I appreciate it more than you know! 🙂
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Bodhirose
/ February 10, 2012I’m so very happy to hear that! 🙂
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Anonymous
/ February 12, 2012Sometimes we do have to take a step back and an honest look, eh?
Nice work.
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Bodhirose
/ February 13, 2012Yes we do…I’m glad I took the opportunity. Thank you.
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