My Dad died about five years ago. Four out of my five siblings and I were in attendance as well as our mother and a few other family members.
He wanted to come home from the hospital more than anything to spend his last moments there but he was feeling some apprehension. Finally, after my mother very bluntly told him, “Wade, you’re dying”, (yep, she actually said that to him!) he agreed to be unhooked from life support and come home one last time. Even still, his controlling personality was in fine form as he ordered us to make sure there was some Campbell’s tomato soup for him when he got there and to go get some puzzle books at the neighborhood Walgreens drugstore.
Hospice was there for support if we needed them.
He never ate that soup or did those puzzles. He lasted about a day, and as one of my sisters and I happened to notice a change in his breathing, we quickly called everyone to his bedside as he drew his last breath. We then held hands, said a prayer and chanted for his soul to be free of any earthly attachments. It was something I’ll never forget. It felt peaceful and natural. I am proud of the “sendoff” we had for him.
However, I think he still may be hanging around. Shortly after he died, I started having an interesting experience. As I am laying down getting ready to go to sleep at night, I have the sensation that my cat has jumped on the bed and is walking across it; however, when I put the light on to remove her, (I don’t let her sleep in the bedroom at night) she is not there. I have even spoken out loud to her in the darkness, knowing that she has hidden under the bed waiting for the light to go out before she leaps out, –“Sita, how did you get in here?” It absolutely feels like there is something “pouncing” on the bed and then “stepping” across it. This has happened repeatedly to me, only and just as I am snuggling in to sleep at night. I had a strong feeling that it is “Dad” when it started happening and I feel no fear during these episodes.
Now, having shared this with my Mom and brothers and sisters, I have found that two others are having the same experience…